"Let my memory be the reason you can't sleep..."
While talking to my best friend about her relationship issues, I realized how much I miss my first true love, my dinohawk. I used to be the person who would get really attached very quickly. Don't get my wrong, I'll still get attached, but I'm slow to move and trust. Growing up in a broken family, experiencing some not so good things, and being at college has taught me a lot. We took a break to focus on ourselves, and now I'm ready to be back in his arms... The question is does he want me back? Promises were made; I take them seriously.
Some basic facts and advice:
- If there were more girls like myself (genuine and sweet), then there would be more successful and happy relationships. These ladies who think they can walk up into some other girl's territory (e.g., boyfriend, lover) and own the place need to realize they're breaking hearts.
- If the guy is serious about the relationship, then don't worry too much about what he's doing all the time. He is dating you; if he wanted another girl, let's hope he'd have the decency to end it with you first.
- Guys and girls will never understand each other 100%, so let's not be too harsh or assume stuff.
- Double standards suck. I don't like them. There needs to be boundaries about what the partners can and cannot do. The end.
- However, the stereotype of the guy working and the lady staying home cooking and cleaning is not such a bad idea for me. I do like to provide for myself, though. Jobs are good.
- Don't let people control you. Ladies, if there's another girl or ex-girlfriend going after your man, trust your man to make the right decisions to protect your relationship. Guys, your woman is most likely not going to go after another guy, if she's any bit of decent.
- Being protective is good. Being overprotective is bad. This goes for parenting, too. My mother was overprotective of my brother and I. When I left her house, I broke free (I did not go crazy!) and lived -- felt good, too. Both partners need to watch out for each other, but don't try to control each other's every action. You both still have lives to live of your own, especially if you're not married yet.
- Be open and honest with each other. If there is any uncertainty or any issues, be civil and talk it out. Don't lose something great over a misunderstanding or miscommunication. Communication is key.
"I wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then. I wish I could start this whole thing over again. [...] You'd still have my heart in the palm of your hands. I'd still look like a fool in front of your friends. Yeah, I wish somehow I didn't know now what I didn't know then." - Toby Keith
According to me, trust is the foundation of a splendid relationship.
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